ARRIVAL OF THE BABY
HOME IS TRANSFORMED INTO A MENAGERIE WITH A
KALEIDOSCOPIC GARDEN!!
The young mother to be looks more pretty
and vivacious than she was a bride on her wedding day. Pregnancy is the period,
when a woman prepares mentally, to withdraw herself from the state of being
pampered and comforted, to the new phase of pampering, comforting and
upbringing her newborn, on her own.
Every nook and corner of the house is
arranged, rearranged, decorated, all the almirahs, cupboards and closets filled
with baby’s clothes, toys and other innumerable joys. A splash of colours,
thrown at all places, makes certain that a rainbow had entered not only in the
hearts of the parents, but also in each and every brick of the house.
A surge of new blood rejuvenates the worn
out veins of the grand parents, to help their daughters/daughters-in-law, from
the moment the baby is out of the mother’s womb. The excitement and fun cross
the boundaries, to fill the home with upheavals of laughter!!
Ironically the grand parents chuckle in
their minds, through this frenzied scenario. They very well know to have their
little bit of sleep now, to prepare themselves for sleepless nights later.
The main and the major factor that the
mother has to confront with immediately after childbirth is Breast Feeding.
Three psychological factors govern the cycle of motherhood, starting with
pregnancy.
Firstly, the mother devotes all attention
to the new born. She throws less light on her better half. If both the husband
and wife understand that this emotional bondage of the mother towards the
infant should be on the upper scale and that the shifting of the attention is
only temporary, then the ball is in the mother’s court. When most of the time,
she is feeding the baby, the husband can help hr in the household chores,
keeping frustrations and depressions at the bay. Still the boat sails on in the
absence of elders, or helpers at home.
In the presence of grand parents, physical
chores are made easy! Parents of this generation are deft enough to draw a
line, for the interference of grand parents and make them understand that they
are undoubtedly in want for moral support, in trying circumstances. But
politely explain the changing trends in the growth and upbringing of the baby,
and the total involvement that the parents should bestow on the infant. Proper
communication eradicates all misunderstandings and reduces the gravity of the
inflation of one’s ego.
When both the parents share the daily
activities concerning the baby, such as changing nappies, bathing etc., the
emotional bond between the husband and the wife increases sufficiently, to
cross the gruelling situations at ease.
The second psychological phenomenon is the
sex of the child.
Male or female, the joy is universal!! Let us regale!!
Little master or little mistress, they vanish all our
distress!!
Cosmetics or dresses, an array of colour add
splendour, to
Our little princesses!!
Jack-of-all-trades, the smart little princes,
Steal the show with unbeaten grace!!
Gentle as a swan and divine as an angel,
Girls embrace us with fondness and élan!!
The robust boys, naughty and down to earth,
Hug us tight to their bosom counting our ribs!!
We redeem them as very smart guys!!
Both eyes give equal vision to our lives!
Parents and we grandparents rejoice with the kids,
Savouring all the thrills!
Our dear ones cling to our inner selves with ease!!
Beware! Our relationship with the tiny tots should be
free of frills!!
Both Lady Charming and Mr. Handsome, look
on their parents as a role model, mentor and guide. Bringing up children with
ease and poise is no easy task. A spout of mozzarella cheese lifts the taste of
pizza to sky high. Likewise, a touch of individuality and a sense of humour,
combined with discipline – discipline enclosed not in barbed wires, but
bolstered by warmth and affection-these facts add as catalysts for the children
to be in stream with the thoughts of their parents.
Proper channelling of ideas and feelings
between the parents, before the birth of a newborn, should ensure an amicable
and potential relationship, with their wards at all stages of life. If there is
any difference of opinion, regarding the sex of the child, then the thought
should be ruled out. Educated parents strive hard to get their child, be it a
boy or a girl, good education and thereby a happy and contented future.
The third and the most important
phenomenon, that a new mother should encounter with is breast-feeding.
Let us view the advantages of
breast-feeding that throw a colossal light on the expressions of today’s
mother.
Breast milk is ready for the baby when it
is out of the womb. No need for any before hand preparations!!
Breast milk is available for the baby at
all times of day and night.
Whether the baby is puny or chubby by
nature, immature or fully grown, healthy or otherwise, mother’s milk is
transformed in such a manner as to fully suit the needs of the baby. Though the
truth is miraculous, the doctors prove the fact scientifically worldwide.
Breast-feed enhances the beauty of the
mother. Breast-feeding burns the unwanted extra fat and helps the mother to
return back to proper shape in no time. There is absolutely no need to go to
the gym and work for long hours to shed that extra fat.
Mother’s milk safeguards the health of the
baby. Baby is free of any disease. Most important and undisputable is the fact
that the baby develops immunisation at a very faster pace. The breast milk is
sterile and contains all the ingredients, to prevent any infection, from
approaching and attacking the baby.
Mother’s milk is sometimes a Doctor, acts
as first aid when necessary, and an all-time Nurse, nurturing the baby with
proper proportions of iron, calcium, vitamins and the essential minerals. It is
like a huge super market where you get all the commodities at a single haul.
Breast-feed enables the mother to develop
healthy food intake before and after pregnancy. The mother becomes conscious
that the food she plans for a day contains all the ingredients that augur to
the health of the newborn.
kozhu
kozhu kanre, en per enna?
kanrin thaaye, en per enna?
thaayai meykkum aaya, en per enna?
aayan kai kole, en per enna?
kol irukkum kodi marame, en per enna?
kodi marathil irukkum kokke, en per enna?
kokku
vaazhum kulame, en per enna?
kulathil irukkum meene, en per enna?
meen pidikkum valaiya, en per enna?
valaiyan kai chattiye, en per enna?
chatti seyyum kuyava, en per enna?
kuyavan kai manne, en per enna?
mannil vilaiyum pulle, en per enna?
pullai thinnum kudiraiye, en per enna?
this is a story told to kids of 1 year and above while feeding them. once upon
a time, a baby fly was born and while it was flying, it forgot its name. (in
tamil, the fly is called 'eeeee'.) so, it started asking one by one whoever it
comes across while flying, 'what is my name?' first it asks kozhu kozhu kanre,
a chubby calf. it replies 'i don't know. ask my mother.' then the fly goes to
the mother cow and asks 'what is my name?' the cow replies, 'I don't know. Ask
my owner.'. Likewise, for every line the story should be like a question and
answer. the child would love to hear this story and finish its food while the
story ends simultaneoulsy.
